I acknowledge blaming is a comfortable reaction for me but I realize that I am actually giving away my personal power of choices when I blame. I will take responsibility for my life because no one else is responsible for my life and happiness but me. One of the most mature things a person can do is cross the line from being a blamer to taking responsibility for their lives.
Many of us live inhuman lives because we believe inhuman rules like âdonât be sadâ, âitâs bad to be angryâ, or youâre weak if youâre afraid.â I will give myself license to feel all my feelings and not mark any of them as bad or weak. ALL my feelings are âguestsâ sent to teach me something. I wonât put them in the driverâs seat and let them control me or put them in the trunk and ignore them. I will pay attention to them all and then decide what to do with them.
I wonât put things most important, like self-care, at the mercy of things least important, like always putting others before myself. I will actively pursue a day of rest and what is fun for me. I will make time for those things that are a delight to my unique soul.
I will become brutally honest with MYSELF first. I will admit what I am really thinking, really feeling, and what I really want. I will declare my truth to others, not fearing what they think, because it is a gift to be told the truth. That truth can be as simple as âI donât want to eat at that restaurantâ or âI donât want to see that movieâ, or it can be as big as â I am afraid of your reactionâ or âI was deeply hurt that you did not callâ or âI lied to you.â
1. Quit Being Afraid of What Others Think 2. Quit Lying 3. Quit Dying to the Wrong Things 4. Quit Denying Anger, Sadness, Fear 5. Quit Blaming 6. Quit Overfunctioning 7. Quit Faulty Thinking 8. Quit Living Someone Else’s Life 1. Quit Being Afraid of What Others Think ⢠I will not say âyesâ when I really want to say ânoâ because Iâm afraid the other person will be angry, sad or disappointed. I will quit agreeing with people if I really donât agree with them. ⢠I donât need your approval to feel good about myself. I already have intrinsic worth and value as a human being because of Godâs love in creating me and dying for me â I have nothing left to prove!
Early coal miners didnât have the special equipment miners have today to measure carbon dioxide in the air, so it was impossible to tell if the gases were building up to dangerous levels. Miners started to use canaries (they were highly sensitive to gas in the air) to test the air quality in the mines. The canaries would chirp and sing all day long. But, if the carbon monoxide levels got too high, and the canaries were no longer singing, miners would know that the gas levels were too high. Soon the canaries would have trouble breathing, swoon, and then die. Miners, who had gone into the mines looking for gold, would leave the mine quickly avoid being caught in an explosion. Many of us leaders want the gold of great fruit out of our leadership. Yet if we are not sensitive to the carbon monoxide, i.e., the integrity gaps in ourselves, our churches,. Read more.
